You have been working so hard for years already and you still feel stressed at the end of each month thinking of how you are going to pay your bills. You still do not have enough savings to spend on luxuries like going on a cruise or having a grand vacation in one of the islands in the pacific region. You still drive a second hand car. And while you are wallowing in self-pity, somebody out there is making yet another million in some business transactions. What is it that he has that you don’t? Is he just luckier than you are? Probably, the big difference between you and that guy is that he has a millionaire mindset. That reaction of yours is expected. You are wondering what on earth a millionaire mindset is.

You mind is very powerful, you know that, don’t you? But do you know that your subconscious is more powerful than that? The subconscious mind is basically a compilation of all the things you have experienced since you were young. These things affect the way you think and the way you do things. You may not be aware of it but there are things there in your mind that dictate your every action far different from what you consciously think about. So if you have, at some point in your life, been struck by the thought that a simple life is better than living grand, you may have a problem getting rich. If you have experienced money being evil in the past, you may have a difficulty getting your first million.

If you want to have a millionaire mind, you have to start consciously altering the way you think about money and its effects in your life. There is a stress in the word consciously because this is the way to erase whatever negative thoughts you have about money and its use in your subconscious.

Start focusing on positive thoughts. Think about how money will affect you positively. Think about the good things it can bring you. Think about how money can make your life change for the better.

This mindset is not something magical. Having it will not instantly increase your money in the bank. But if you have positive thoughts about money and how it is used, you will start valuing it. You will start knowing how to use it well. You will begin using it responsibly. You will learn when to use it or when to keep it for future use. And with positive thoughts you will start working even better. You will become more productive and everything else will follow.

A millionaire mindset will help you take that first step towards becoming a millionaire. With this mindset you will soon be drinking wine in an exclusive club with that millionaire you so envy now.

Before Dan died I remember we laughed at the antics of our single friends. And when the terrifying new killer disease, something called “aids” started making the headlines on a daily basis, we hugged each other in gratitude that didn’t apply to “us”. But after 28 years I was left a 47 year old widow and I faced the challenge of building a new second half of my life.

The first step to getting back out there is to take a good and hard look at our physical self. We live in a physical world and while at first I pretended, my extra poundage didn’t matter – it did. I knew Dan had seen me through husband goggles – special husband eyes that still sees the happy, curvy, teen he fell in love with. But that was 28 years and 75 pounds ago. Too bad the opposite sex doesn’t come to a meet and greet wearing husband goggles. A meet and greet is when you meet a person of the opposite sex on a dating site and they ask you to meet them for coffee or a drink. It’s not a meal commitment and it’s not so expensive that they can’t be a mensch (big shot) and buy you a cup of coffee or a glass of wine. If all goes well, they ask you out for a real date and if not, oh well, you’ve only invested a short time. If it doesn’t go well, don’t waste a moment feeling bad about it. They missed out on the winning lottery ticket (that’s you)! Think of it like sales people think of a sales call that ends in “no”. It just means you’re closer to the next “yes” or in your case; you are just closer to finding the right person to date.

My goal is to help you get ready for your first (or next) meet and greet. Even more important than looking your best, you have to feel like you look your best. Take 30 days to get ready before you start setting up meet and greets. Use those 30 days to dye the gray around the temples and whiten your teeth, buy new perfume or after shave, and throw away the torn and stained under ware. You need the 30 days to be fighting weight. You don’t have to be thin! You have to be the weight that makes you feel confident, beautiful or handsome. You need to feel sexy. If you need to lose that extra weight take the 30 days to let go of 20-30 pounds. You can do it with the HCG diet. You know that feeling you get in the morning when you didn’t eat before bed. That flat stomach feeling. That’s the feeling you’re striving for the morning of the big meet and greet. Spiff up; don’t be afraid to ask for help in picking out your new outfit. Buff and shine and wash everywhere. Brush those teeth, visit the dentist and swish a little scope in your mouth. Buy a good deodorant. Clean out your car. Have a couple suggestions in mind, if they ask you where you want to meet. Be flexible and be on time. If you’re going to be late, call them. Don’t under any circumstances, stand them up. I don’t care how scared you get; there is no excuse for rudeness. Karma, karma, karma. Let me know how it goes.