Sex in a marriage relationship is definitely something worth talking about. Not ordinary sex but satisfying rewarding and sizzling sex. It is actually something to savor like the best chocolate and over the years hone your sex skills to be like fine wine, masterpiece paintings and good old fashion comfort food, prized-appreciated and rewarding.

A Quick Guide to Chocolate Good Sex.

• Sex in a relationship should have the opportunity to age beautifully. So treated it right. Like fine wine – appreciate that it did not get that good over night. It is the depth of the flavor of the wine that is prized.
• Like a masterpiece painting, it is in the eye of the beholder and looks good in any light. A masterpiece painting is not a snap shot of life. It only becomes art when it is appreciated.
• Good sex is like a food craving that is satisfied in the first mouth watering bite. Like the total delight of that cup of hot chocolate when you were a kid or a hot bowl of soup after coming in from a bitterly cold winter’s day. Oh so rich and rewarding.

Sex is something to look forward to. And just like good chocolate, quality beats just quantity. Now, don’t get me wrong I did not get this wise overnight. When I was first married I just about rubbed all the spots off my man in delight. But now after decades, yes decades, of a fantastic marriage, I found that quality is that opportunity to go deeper in showing care and love. Appreciate and savor the richness in the relationship and you will get a richness out of the relationship. Chocolate doesn’t care who buys it, but you care what chocolate you eat.

So treat your sex life like chocolate.

1. Hold out for the good stuff, it is so worth your while.2. Don’t freeze it-temper it. Chocolate is best when it is the optimum temperature. Arguments and the needing to be right all the time can definitely put a chill on the best relationships. There is no argument that is worth freezing each other out.3. Love it in all forms, from mint chocolate chip ice cream to a cup of piping hot chocolate with marshmallows on top, a personal favorite of mine, to the quick rush of favor as a piece of rich velvety chocolate melts on your tongue. As your relationship deepens, like in seasons, appreciate all the differences the years bring.4. Don’t ignore it to have it dry up or melt on it’s own. Put care and time into your relationship, treasure it and you will have better, richer and more rewarding sex.

If you are not having it, I bet your husband is hassling you for it or he’s quietly disappointed. If you have had it, you just were not ready and are hoping that this time will hold him over for a while. Finally you probably are having it and loving it. We all fall into some category regarding sex after having children. If you fall in to the first two categories what do you do? How do you get over the hump? I will talk about some suggestions that I have done and that others have suggested to aid in such at time as this.

The first thing that should be done is to talk to your mate. Communication is very important in a relationship and when done correctly can solve most, if not all, of relationship issues. Find out what is making you not want to be intimate with your mate. Maybe you don’t feel sexy, maybe you are just tired all the time, or it could be sex is the last thing on your mind when thinking about work, the family and household chores. Whatever it is, you must find out in order to overcome this hurdle. I must say I did take this advice. I felt bad that I was neglecting my husband, and although he has been nothing but patient with me, I felt that he was secretly disappointed. One night I just talked with him, and told him I don’t feel sexual.

I don’t feel like I did prior to the baby. My body is no longer a sexual being, it is now a dairy farm and that is just not sexy. Thinking about being intimate when I was just used for nourishment is very confusing. I don’t have a switch that is turned off and on, although that would be so much easier. My husband was very receptive to my thoughts and concerns. Once you have reached that point it is very important to let your mate know what he can do to help and ladies, be specific. Think of the things that he use to do that got you excited. Whether it’s sneaking a grab at your butt while in the store, or sneaking a kiss when he walks by, or sending text messages during the day, let him know. Talking this out can help him understand what you are going through and not feel rejected.

But ladies, don’t leave it up to the guy to get you going. Sometimes we want to simply feel sexy without the thought of having to have sex. If that’s the case, then you have to learn how to turn on that “sensual switch”. Once the little one is down for the night (or maybe a few hours) put on a sexy lingerie and drink water, juice, or anything out of a wine glass. Your mate may not be around or already sleep, but it will help remind you that you do have a sensual side. If your mate is home, he may want to help bring that side out of you. Another idea is stop wearing your maternity clothes and/or under garments. I must tell you I have been so guilty of that. While pregnant, my maternity clothes made me feel good and sexy, but now the feeling is the complete opposite. Here a few more ideas:

- Belly dancing – it’s a very sexy dance, and a great way to exercise. Exercise helps to boost your energy and your self confidence.

- Have a date night – it’s very important that you and your mate remember the relationship between the two of you and continue to nourish that relationship. It’s so easy to forget about that when caring for the kids.

- Just do it – Sometimes you need to just go ahead and put all your fears aside and do it.

Remember having sex is not to make your husband happy. The intimacy is needed for you as well. Mothers need to remember that they are not just mothers. They are Women and women love to feel sexy, sensual and intimate, too. It’s another way to help take care of yourself and grow the sensual side of you. What do you do to bring that sensual woman out of you?

A tip that everyone SHOULD know (but many don’t) is how to alter semen to be more pleasant tasting. You may have encountered semen that tastes bitter and “bleachy”. This is due in part to the alkalinity in the body’s secretions. Let’s face it, what you put into your body will be recycled back out. It may be interesting why this is, but all you really need to know is what to DO about it!

There are several ways to alter the taste of semen through diet changes. The very quickest, easiest and most basic is to simply drink PINEAPPLE JUICE. It can be canned or bottled, fresh or frozen. Within approximately 24 hrs, you’ll notice a distinct taste change in the semen. It may become sweeter, but it may not. What will happen is the bleachy, alkaline taste will be neutralized by the acid from the pineapple juice. Many other remedies are good suggestions as well. Eating things like parsley (good for bad breath as well), and vegetables, avoiding red meats, heavy meals, and strong flavors are all good suggestions, but simply drinking pineapple juice at least 12 hours before sex is the easiest quick fix for the problem. As long as you can find pineapple juice, then re-arranging your entire diet is unnecessary!

So skip the wine and beer at dinner, and grab some of this amazing tropical nectar instead. Your significant other will appreciate it, and you’ll reap the benefits ten-fold! And as always, keep drinking plenty of water. What’s good for the semen is good for the whole body!

One situation that looks good in the short term, but in reality slowly pushes the self-destruct button in the long term, is when a woman is no more interested in a particular man than she would have been in a totally incompatible stranger, but for reasons best known to her, signals that she finds the man attractive or is perhaps willing to play his game.

Reasons for this may vary; however, my research shows that women, like their male counterparts, generally have needs too, and overall, these needs can be grouped into three main categories: physical, material, and emotional. Considerate and realistic women know it is not always possible to have all three categories fulfilled by just one man, so they compromise, making do with one or two of the three needs, and at the same time accepting or working on the area(s) they find lacking in that man. However, there always seems to be that one woman somewhere – slipping through the net – with the firm belief that she can have it all. But if, all of a sudden, she realises – the hard way, if I may add – she couldn’t have the needs fulfilment she craves in just one man, what would she do?

Well then, let’s just theorise for one second: for her material needs, she sticks with Mr Bills for financial security, though not in the least bit attracted to him (Mr Bills might suspect, but in most cases, it is usually too late). Then she may have an affair with Mr Skills for his looks, outward appeal, and perhaps sexual prowess, to meet her physical needs, considering that Mr Bills is not really the best in the looks department and in most cases may be a little too tired for bedroom antics after a hard day’s work. If she – let’s call her Sharon – accuses Mr Bills of working all the time, he would point to the sports car in the garage – let’s call it Lamborghini – which he bought as a present for her last birthday and remark: ‘How did you think I could have afforded your car, by staying home and having sex all day?!’ (Is it just me, or does that sound harsh?) Although a responsible and industrious high-flyer working for a blue-chip company, Mr Bills is by no means innocent when it comes to taking office work home, thus sparing little or no time for Sharon.

And just when we thought we’ve seen the best of the ‘Mr Bills-Sharon-Mr Skills’ love triangle, in steps Mr Romeo, Sharon’s pillar of emotional support. Mr Romeo’s main positives and strength provide Sharon with a ‘listening ear’ whenever the chips are down- as we all may or may not know, every woman loves a good listener, especially when she needs to get a few things off her chest.

She could be with all three individuals for three different reasons without arousing their slightest suspicion. What about the men playing this tripartite game? Let us just say they are as real as taxes. I have met them, and I’m quite sure you have too (It could as well be you, the male reader) – and occasionally have even sat down to have drinks with them. Some were friends and acquaintances, and others? Well, we can call them ‘absolute strangers’, who felt the need to confide in anyone who cares to listen to them at their lowest points, most especially when alcohol had taken its toll. Mind you, as an observational writer, there is no better venue to find me in, with an imaginary pen and pad handy, than a wine bar or pub. As long as alcohol keeps flowing, the hearts and souls of men and women also tend – in unison – to flow as freely as the Niagara Falls.

Even though Mr Bills, Mr Skills, and Mr Romeo hold different statuses in the society – rich or poor, good looking or ugly, old or young- they are all ultimately victims of the same predicament: deception. To make matters worse, the three hardly ever cross one another’s path, making each feel assured that he is the only one in Sharon’s life. However, when fate does strike, and the deceit comes to an end, as it usually does eventually, the consequences are grave and unpleasant. We don’t want to be instruments of other people’s gratification, and because we are human beings, we all have feelings which should be protected, making us worthy of much more. And if we are really being honest with ourselves, men and women are sometimes the architects of their own precarious situations. If our so-called love interest doesn’t or no longer feels like playing ball – even though facing up to the hard facts sometimes proves difficult – turning on our ‘ignitions’ and stepping on the gas would seem the appropriate next line of action – that is, simply moving on.

What more can I can about chocolate? It is the sexiest gift anyone could give simply because it’s sweet, rich and luscious nature helps to release inhibition and bring out the beast in all of us. Chocolate, particularly of the dark class, has been known to release chemicals in the brain that aid in relaxation and pleasure. So it is only natural that this candy and sex would go hand in hand, but there are other more tantalizing reasons why this dark sweet would make a very sexy surprise to anyone.

Engages the Senses: To accomplish the most sexual satisfaction you must involve as many body senses as possible. That is why candy is very important. It activates the oral cavity and raises the interaction of the taste buds during sex. This of course is a plus because the more alert the taste buds are the more memorable the experience will be.

To Stimulate Passion: Chocolate is a very intense aphrodisiac and is known to heighten the libido in humans especially women. And this characteristic makes it a gift that should be used during foreplay to increase passion and sensuality.

Increases pleasure: This addictive confectionery has been proven to release endorphins in the brain which not only relaxes, but also boosts happiness. So it can be used to make a lover more comfortable and allow them to fully enjoy the love making. Kind of like the same affect wine has.

Keeps Things Interesting: This dark treat can actually bring back some excitement in a worn out relationship particularly in the bedroom. When used on the body it can make some very discreet parts taste really really good.

For centuries chocolate was the most romantic gift that could be given by a lover or admirer, and that has not changed. Chocolate makes a fantastic gift for days of the year that call for romance like Valentine’s Day, anniversaries, weddings or any other day on the calendar you want to show some love. You could also have a chocolate dessert over a romantic dinner where the both of you will be anxiously anticipating to start the “activities of the night”. Or it could be given in a form of a gift card [http://www.giftgrease.com/delicious-gift-card.html]. Any way you choose to present your candy is fine as long it is used to help achieve the ultimate pleasure possible.

Well, as I was talking with a client of mine yesterday, and what I was hearing was that he could meet women and was very good at starting conversations, getting numbers, going on dates and having a lot of fun with women. And was even really good at using the language patterns to turn women on, but… He just couldn’t close the deal. Now this is what we call a sticking point!

So, he said, “Well, I’m afraid of rejection!” “Every time I get a girl alone and in the zone for sex, they always pull away or hesitate…” And I said, “What does that mean to you?” (I’ll explain what this means in a little bit!) And my client said, “It means they don’t want sex!” “And that they aren’t like that!” etc.. etc.. And I said, “How do you know?” And then my client let it all out! He said, “Well, because I realize they are probably thinking, or saying in their head, that they are not like this!” And I said, “Well, how well does that thought work for you?” And he said, “What do you mean?” I said, “Well, first, how could you possibly know that’s what they are thinking?” And my client said, “Well, that’s what I think they are thinking!” And again I said, “How well is that thought working for you?” And my client said, “it’s not!” So I said, “Would you be willing to explore the possibilities of what’s really going on?”

And my clients said, “Yeah, of course!” And over an hour or so of conversation, I realized my client had all this nonsense and chatter going on in his head! And I do realize that this person was really close to what was needed. See, my client was compassionate and didn’t want the girl to feel bad, but was off thinking and creating the wrong thoughts and experiences for himself and her…

Now, the first thing you have to know, is it’s all about the energy or atmosphere that you create first with your thoughts, secondly with your body language and tonality.

So I said, “Well, you are creating thoughts of worry by asking these questions and thinking these thoughts.” “So stop doing that!” “What you need to do is realize a few things!” “First of all, you need to start creating thoughts and feelings of what you want her to feel and connect with you in these intimate moments!” “Like warm, loving, sensual, pleasurable and comforting thoughts of romance, love and intimacy!”

Now this is what you need to do. #1 Stop listening to your head…I am dead serious, stop this nonsense, because it will get you no where! Instead, listen to your body. I’m serious… Have you ever heard of that TV commercial for Fruit Loops cereal? Where the Bird is in a jungle and it’s nose is all full of different brightly vibrant colors? Where it says, “Follow your nose, it always knows!”

Well, I am telling you the same thing but in a slightly different light, “Follow your cock, it always knows!” So start listening to your sexual feelings, urges and follow them, because they will lead you to the Motherland! And that’s a great place to be, trust me! hehe… Now you might think that’s funny, and it is, but it is more true than you realize.Your sexual drive and body know exactly what to do! So just follow it! And for crying out loud, stop listening to your damn mind…

#2 Create an environment of trust where she can trust you will take care of things! This is the most important section in this article. This is what the article was really written for! She needs for you to reassure her and let her know that you are taking care of her and it’s your responsibility! Because then she can relax and surrender to you sexually… Now this is a huge thing that men have a hard time understanding, because you are the male, the penetrater, not the female who has to literally open up her legs and let you inside of her and possibly get her pregnant. If you are a stranger or this is your first time, she absolutely must feel safe and trust you! It is absolutely your job to make her feel safe, emotionally bonded with you and comfortable to completely surrender, open up and make love with you!

She takes on the worry of what if I get pregnant? Is he going to stick around and help me? Is he going to make me feel safe? So you have to let her know with your body language, the way you take charge, lead and talk that you’ve got it, that you have it all taken care of. That everything is fine. That together you and her can do this… and everything is going to be wonderful, this is going to be a wonderful experience with you… It’s your job to create an emotionally safe and emotionally fulfilling experience for her! So talk smooth, relax, slow down, touch her gently and make her melt by your very touch and with the magic of your words!

And from this point on, simply focus on the amazing pleasure the 2 of you are about to experience together! That’s what you should be focusing on! Period! So stop being so serious and just loosen up, have some fun. Be playful and fun! Ok! * Tip, watch a funny movie. Or anything that gets you laughing. Laughter will get you sex easier than anything else, even more than Romantic movies or a Romantic Dinner or flowers! Get a massage or give her a massage. Just relax and let go… A little wine is OK too.

#3 Create an open, accepting and non-judgmental environment for her! So she feels safe emotionally. She needs to know she is not going to be thought of as a slut or whore or anything like that the next day. Because women do enjoy sex and want sex and pleasure just as bad as men do. So if you want to have an amazingly sexual and erotic experience with her, then you must let her know that it’s ok to let go and enjoy to the fullest and you won’t think any different of her or judge her. You must create a completely non-judgmental environment for her. Just accept her for the beautiful girl that she is and she is sharing herself with you.

#4 You must also create a completely free environment where she can feel free to come back to you, be with you and connect sexually with you, because she wants to, not because you put some kind of guilt trip on her or worse, because you are trying to control her or change her in any way! This must be an experience where the 2 of you can freely come together and enjoy each others pleasure. Again, learning how to completely let go of the outcome and her is your secret key to the power of Love and Pleasure!

#5 When a woman hesitates, she is actually saying, “I surrender, take me.” I bet you didn’t know that one huh? And she’s also saying, “but I can’t be a whore and let you have it.” “I have to act like I am innocent and pure and i am not having sex because I want sex, but because you took it from me or you led me here!” So when she gently hesitates and gets quiet, that is a definite signal saying, “You have the green light, go for it!” “Take it!” “Oh GAWD Man Take it already, just go for it!” hahaha…

At this point, with most women all you will have to do is simply keep moving forward and just start kissing her, touching her and begin to take her clothes off. If she says, “No, or not yet, she doesn’t necessarily mean no, she’s really saying, “I need to more time to get more and more turned on or comfortable with you, to the point of “NO RETURN!”. So back off a little bit and maybe just hold her for a second and assure her by saying, “It’s Ok, I’ve got you!” And say that while you are holding her firmly and comfortably. And then start all over and keep moving forward. You may have to do this more than a few times. But whatever you do, don’t completely stop.

Imagine it’s like a sport where you need to take a breather and catch your breath! Now in contrast, if she is yelling in an angry tone, “NO!” “Stop, and is pushing you away very hard, and saying, “I do not want this, etc.”, then that is a definite no sign. But if she is doing it playfully and having fun saying no, then it’s on! The main point or core understanding, is you have to know that women want you to be the responsible one and that they can’t socially/publicly say, “I want sex!” because in our society and most societies, that would mean that she’s a whore and will be disrespected! This is really her way of making you show that you are the man and it’s you who is leading her to sex, not her! So she may back off a few times, so that’s ok. So just keep plowing!

Yes, at this point, you have to use this technique I call “PLOWING!” But you will have to do it with finesse. Now, that being said, every girl is different. So you will have to simply pay attention to her. What does she need right now? What does she want to lead her forward into having sex. Basically, just look at her, is she smiling, grinning, does she have that devilish grin? Does she have that “Omg”, I am so freaking horny look? What does she look like, breath like, move like? Is she holding you, turned away, what? Start to notice her and where she is at in the moment! That is probably the biggest most important thing I can tell you!

Another technique you can do is simply get up, out of bed, and go watch some TV or make some ice cream or pop corn or throw in a movie and invite her, from the other room or at the end of the bed, “Nonchalantly” without looking at her, over your shoulder or from the other room, to join you are ask her if she wants some ice cream. And do it in a nonchalant, buddy, nonsexual kind of way! Now that will really throw her for a loop. hehe… Trust me, she is not used to guys like this! It lets her know you are not just about sex, but care about her.

Another thing you can do is pull out a board game and play. Now a video game might really piss her off, so I would avoid that, unless you absolutely know she loves to play video games. Too many guys get addicted to their video games and it really pissed women off, so I really wouldn’t do this. Besides, a board game invites her to interact with you!

I once dated this cute Asian girl and we ended up at my place, and we ended up in the bedroom. We were on the couch cuddling, kissing and she kept saying in a playful girly voice, “no”, “no”, “no”, but kept kissing me and holding me and pulling me back every time I leaned away and started watching T.V.. (This is a playing hard to get technique. Women love it when you play that cat and mouse game. So be a challenge to the very end! hehe…)

CAVEMAN TECHNIQUE: So when she pulled me to her, I stood up and she grabbed my shirt and tried to pull me back down, so I did my Trademark move! hehe… I pulled a Caveman on her! hahaha… I literally grabbed her and threw her over my shoulder and smacked her on the ass and then Roared like a Caveman! RAAAAAAAAAAAAAA… And then I carried her to my bed with her laughing the entire way.

Now, you must know that this technique actually turns women on massively in a big, big way! I am serious. It is hard-wired into her DNA from almost 100,000 years of Cavemen doing this to cave girls. If you want to learn this technique on how to Roar and grab her like a Caveman does, I will teach you… hahahaha..

So, when we got into bed and I started acting like a Caveman Roaring and while taking off her clothes, she was laughing and at the same time was saying “no”, “no”, “no”, but was also laughing and giggling and she never tried to get out of bed and was being playful the entire time. In fact, when I stopped and pulled back, she would grab me and start kissing me and never made any attempt of pulling her shirt back on or her pants, etc. This was her way of saying, “Yes, take it!” So guess what I did? I took it! hahaha… So, I just kept going acting like a Caveman and we had the best time ever! It really was an amazingly intensely sexual experience for us both! So learning how to read women’s indirect signals is vital…

Oh, I almost forgot! #6 Women Love to Role Play! Yes! Women love to role-play different roles. Personally, I like to be the Caveman because it really resonates with my personality! And women love to be taken by a Caveman! Other roles are Doctor role, etc. Now the thing to understand, is that this role-playing gives her plausibility of deniability to her friends or anyone. Because it wasn’t sex, it was role-playing. It wasn’t her, it was a game, etc. So this will actually allow her to open up and experience the greatest sex of her life! The female brain is hard-wired to her imagination big time! So the more you can engage her imagination the more pleasurable and erotic her experiences will be with you! And if you are married, this technique will definitely light the fire in your relationship again. Have fun and enjoy life together! That’s what we are here for!

#7 You want to know what the goal is! This one is huge! You have to know what your target is, so you can aim at it! Actually, this is a very powerful secret in sports and in hypnosis. See, if you don’t know where you are going, your unconscious mind can’t take you there, because it’s your unconscious mind that actually does all the work of your body language, tonality, and other unconscious processes. So, start imagining what you want! Like maybe you want to imagine making wild, passionate love with her! Imagine holding you, kissing you passionately. Imagine feeling the heat coming from her body. Imagine her completely melting into you and making love to you, holding you, clinging to you firmly with passion and lust in her eyes, arms and entire body, making her legs quiver! Now that’ s a Goal and a clear target! IMAGINE HAVING WHAT YOU WANT AND YOU WILL!!!

Being in a relationship, most of the time, is the best thing in the world. It is inevitable, however, that you will come across relationship problems that need to be addressed. What you have to be careful about is neglecting another human being in some way as to distance yourself from them. Before your issues become serious deal breakers, here are some tips to learn how to deal with relationship problems more effectively.

Are you just plain tired? Are both of you working? Long work hours are notorious for ruining perfectly good relationships. If you have kids, all the more reason to acknowledge your exhaustion. What to Do – Slow down. Cut down on non-essential work. Make more time for sleep and regular breaks away. And think seriously about shortening your hours. That may mean less income, but the reward could be a stronger relationship and less stress which will kill more than your relationship. Too much stress will kill you.

Speaking of stress, if you demand a lot of yourself or if family, friends and boss demand a lot of you, then sheer stress may make you irritable and depressed. Feeling affectionate or passionate will be the last thing on your mind in the evening. What to Do – You need to relax. Half an hour spent listening to music, or better still a relaxation CD, can cool you down enough to give and receive love. Longer term, take steps to investigate alternative approaches – like aromatherapy – to help keep you more relaxed on a day-to-day basis.

Want to take a drink? Think again. It can be very tempting. Come in, get a bottle of wine out of the refrigerator. Before you know it, you’re a few glasses down and in the mood for a fight. Alcohol removes your normal safeguards, so you end up saying things just to get at your partner, and saying them aggressively. What to Do – If you regularly drink in the evening, water it down or choose low alcohol drinks. Or cut out drinking during the week and just drink on the weekends, when you’re not so likely to have had a hard day.

If your lifestyle dictates that you spend a lot of time with each other, then you can get on each other’s nerves through over-exposure. Need some space? Yes, we all need time alone. It is very important to remain independent within your relationship or risk losing each other. What to Do – If you don’t have much room at home, then go for a walk or have an early night. Down time on the computer helps too – so long as you don’t spend all your time online and no time with your love.

There are a lot more relationship problems and ways to deal with them. The examples above only scratch the surface. For more about how to deal with relationship problems, start by visiting the website mentioned below.

Whether you’ve been married a year or a decade, you’ve probably discovered that sex can go stale, no matter how much you love your partner. Keeping sex hot in a monogamous relationship is a challenge – but can you think of a better one to tackle?

As any sex therapist will tell you, there really are differences between men and women when it comes to sex. As long as a man is still in good health, he generally needs little priming to get ready for sex. While that doesn’t mean he won’t enjoy foreplay, just the thought of making love is enough to make him ready.

Women need more. They generally express the need to know that sex means more than just a physical release. Yes, physical release is good for women, but for women orgasm comes more easily and may even feel better if sex has some emotional meaning.

Sometimes men really don’t seem to understand how to make sex meaningful to their wife. Because a man sees the act of sex as an expression of love, he may not get what he needs to do to create trust and intimacy.

That is where the art of seduction comes in. To seduce someone means to entice them, to make the idea of sex very appealing. Seduction requires charm. You need to be clever, to make yourself not only attractive to your wife, but to attract her to you as well.

One way to seduce your wife is to let her know how much you love her. And I don’t just mean her chest or tush. I mean all of her. Tell her how much you love her face, her hands, the curve of her calf. Tell her you love her kindness and her laugh. Notice the things that made you first fall in love with her, and tell her that you still notice.

Another way to seduce her is to add some romance to your day. This is true most especially on a day that you are feeling in the mood for sex. You needn’t make a big gesture or spend a lot of money. Leave a little note someplace only she will see it (her makeup drawer, on top of her handbag). Or pour her a glass of wine or sparkling water and bring her a plate of cheese and fruit when she comes home at the end of the day.

The third important thing to remember if you want to seduce your wife is to start making love by touching her hands, arms, face, neck, and back before you move onto her more erotic areas. Most women need to be warmed up a bit before they like being touched in an intimate way. Touching and kissing your wife tenderly will show that you love and respect this about her.

These things may be small, but they are very important. And you can’t just do them once and expect her to be enchanted with you forever. You need to repeat, repeat, repeat. But not the exact same thing! Following a formula will just seem forced. You need to seduce your wife with love, from the heart.

Just because you’ve been together awhile doesn’t mean you should give up on doing all the things lovers do. You can get, and keep, your wife’s interest in sex if you know how to show her that you still love her and that sex means something to you, too.

When it comes to seducing a woman, it can easily seem like you either got it, or you don’t. What most guys do not realize is that no other man is born knowing exactly what to say and what to do in order to seduce a woman. Knowing how to create and then trigger sexual attraction with a woman is something that comes along with experience, trial and error, and for some guys, a slap in the face here and there.

If you want to know how to seduce a woman without all of the “experience,” then you have to learn a few basic principles at play in the seduction of a woman. These basic principles can save you a lot of frustration with women and lead to a lot of success.

And in this case, success is more than just sweet. It means your sex life will NEVER be the same again and you will be glad for that!

Here are a few basic principles that you MUST know when it comes to the seduction of a woman:

1. If the mood ain’t right, then you can call it a night. Most guys ignore just how important it is to set the mood and to set the tone with a woman, if you want to seduce her. Now, you don’t have to break out a Lionel Richie record and a bottle of red wine to seduce a woman, however, you MUST get the mood right so that she feels comfortable, intrigued and most importantly, sexually aroused around YOU.

2. A woman is not nearly as driven by your physical looks as you are by hers. We as men, our main focal point is how good the women looks. If she is a true knockout, then we couldn’t care less about the many other things that could come into play. Women are not always the same way. In fact, more often than not, they can seem like the complete opposite. YOU have to win her over through your personality, your charm, and your charisma.

3. You cannot be afraid to make the first move. So many guys will be in prime position to take things further with a woman, and then they fumble the ball, simply because they will not make the first move. If you are thinking that in some way, you are going to be able to get her to tear your clothes off simply just by being you, then you might want to think again. You have to become comfortable when making the move on a woman, if you want to be able to seduce a woman.

Do you want to have sex to be as good as eating Chocolate? Did you even know that sex could be like eating a good piece of chocolate?

Well, let me tell you, there is a good reason why the world loves chocolate and great sex.

Actually I bet if given the chance to have a rich and rewarding and fulfilling sex life – we would all raise our hands to be choco-holics.

Do you want to have a relationship that last, something to savor, something to look forward to? Especially year after year and have the sex life to match? Do you? Well, here are some simple thoughts to get you on your way.

Step one: Treat your sex life like chocolate candy – Don’t take it for granted that you will always have it, there may be other candy in the store but nothing takes the place of chocolate.

Step two: Savor the moment. If you got a box of chocolate, it’s kind of wasteful to just sit and down the whole thing. Pace yourself. Savor the moment.

My son, recently home from college on spring break, was craving mint chocolate chip ice cream. Ice cream is one of the things that doesn’t survive the trip from the store to his apartment in a backpack. So who could blame his cravings? After all we are talking about mint chocolate chip ice cream. Humm, just the thought of that delightful snap of the dark chocolate swirled in a field of rich velvety smooth cream. And as Rachael Ray would say “yumm-o”.

So the indulgent mom that I am the next day a carton of mint chocolate chip ice cream just, magically, appeared in the freezer. I didn’t have to tell him that it was there, for it was only moments later that his “growing boy” internal radar some how knew. Seconds later, the prized ice cream heaped high in a cereal bowl he was in front of the television. With great anticipation of the that long remembered flavor, he shoveled a healthy glob of the ice cream into his mouth. Aha… what a rush… but wait a moment, he discovered the mint chocolate chip ice cream just didn’t come up to his expectation.

It is not that the ice cream was not all that it could be, it was something he remembered as the first swallow went down.

His mind when back to a time when buried in some ancient copy of a Women’s magazine on the doctor’s waiting room table, there was a small article about ice cream. He remembered now that ice cream has to come to just the right temperature for the full flavor to be at it’s peak. So with the dish nestled in his warm hands and with a couple of quick stirs, aha… the perfect mint chocolate chip ice cream experience.

Step three: Are you rushing sex without taking the time to let things warm up to it just the right temperature? Sex gets so much better, richer and fulfilling when time is given for you to reach your peak. It may not seem like a lot but for women even 11 minutes warm up will reap great rewards.

Sex, is something to savor, relationships, especially over the years, are like fine wines, masterpiece paintings and good food. To be honest, there is nothing like having loving, fulfilling and like chocolate, life time full of rewarding sex.